Congratulations to her!
Hello readers, I know its been such a lonnggg time! Happy new year! :) Just want to take this time out to officially congratulate my fellow co-writer ‘Her’ on her engagement! She doesn’t know i am writing this, make sure to leave a comment and show her some love. Hopefully she can bring the married perspective into some of our disconnects real soon! -Him
Why Do People Cheat?
Readers…WE SINCERELY APOLOGIZE for our long absentee. Life happens…and it caught up with the both of us. But, WE’RE BACK! From Her: Cheating Cheating Cheating! Soooo, WHY DO PEOPLE CHEAT? Why do men cheat? Why do women cheat? These are questions that people will forever have varying opinions about. So, my upcoming thoughts are merely one of those many varying opinions. First...
Why Get Married?
Hello readers! We decided to switch things up a bit for this post! We want to hear from YOU all…..OUR READERS! We live in a society where marriage is prized and highly esteemed. Various cultures, religions, and the like place various levels of importance on the institution of marriage. But, why? What’s the reason behind the push for marriage? Married people, why did you get married?...
Who Should Initiate?
From Her: “Don’t call him first…”, “If he really likes you, he will make a move..”, “girl, it’s 2011, you gotta go get what you want…” These are all statements that many of us females have heard at one point or the other of our lives concerning whether or not to ‘make a move’ with a guy. Some say, it’s the...
Can a guy and girl be just friends?
“In her book ‘Relationships’, former college professor Dr. Pamela Reeve discusses three levels of friendships: acquaintances, companions and intimate friends. Dr. Reeve observes that men and women cannot sustain an intimate friendship without one or the other harboring romantic expectations. She recommends that men and women avoid being intimate friends outside of courtship and...
From Her: There has been a lot of talk about how daunting the prospect of marriage is for black women. There have been TV specials, tons of articles, and a bunch of commentary on the subject. It feels like an obsession to be honest. Not too long ago, a Wall Street Journal article came out that offered a solution to the “phenomenon”. Mr. Banks, a Professor of Law at Stanford Law School suggests...
Its Over, Should I Unfriend Now?
Readers, We apologize for being M.I.A for the past few weeks. Life and Summer have been busy! We will try not to ever disappear again! From Her: In today’s world of social media, one of the main stamps of an “official” relationship is the infamous Facebook relationship status change! Those who go above and beyond actually claim each other in their relationship statuses. For one...
Should Married Couples Have Separate Accounts?
From Him: Short answer to this one is NO; married couples should not have separate bank accounts because it will only lead to problems. Finances is one of the major reasons couples get into arguments and end up splitting up because someone has a secret account somewhere. The Bible says, “and the two will become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one” - Mark 10:8. So if you are...
Age of Marriage Double Standards
Questioned from a reader: “Why is it okay for men to be 30 years old and not married and people aren’t pressuring them to get married, while women at the age of 30 are being looked at with pitying eyes and getting offers to take them to every prayer meeting in town to break the demons of “delayed” marriage.” From Her: As a female, I know this scenario all too...
Sexual Double Standards
In response to a reader question, Part 1: From Him: The double standard that men expect women to have fewer sex partners than we have is one of those things that has been around for ages and isn’t going anywhere any time soon; although it is becoming less of an issue in today’s society because women are becoming more promiscuous. A man’s sexual activity has always been...
Should my Partner have access to my phone?
(In response to a reader question) From Her: Locks on cell phones….hmmm. Well, first of all, most people lock their cell phones as a mode of privacy in general. But, I am guessing that you are talking about in the confines of a relationship. When in a relationship, I believe trust is SUPER IMPORTANT…it’s one of the major cruxes of any healthy relationship. Do you have to...
Chivalry is Dead?
From Him: No it’s not dead, it has just evolved. It has evolved in the sense that some things that weren’t considered to be chivalrous can now be considered so. For example if I am going out on a second date with you and I offer to pick you up, that can be looked at as chivalrous (haha…especially with these gas prices). Some other things I found while researching were “calling instead of...
Question: Should Education Matter?
Hello World! In response to our first blog “Should her Income Matter?”, we received this question: “Hey guys I really liked the post about whether income should matter or not in serious relationships. Along the same lines I am interested in what you guys think about how much education is “too much” for the woman. or put in a different way, should a couple worry about...
Should her income matter?!
-From Her: About a month ago, my daddy (yes…I still call him that..lol) and I had a very interesting “what are your expectations/ vision for your future spouse” discussion. I must say, it was QUITE interesting. He asked me to bring my infamous ‘LIST’ (“write the vision, make it plain” ladies and gents) of things I believe are important in MY future...
Hello World! Why did we start this blog? Well to be honest, we are two friends (it took us a while to even become acquaintances) who have varying opinions about A LOT of things! Of course this is because we are two different human beings…but, moreso, we believe it’s because I am a FEMALE and he is a MALE! So join us as we agree, disagree, agree to disagree, and everything in...