From Her:
There has been a lot of talk about how daunting the prospect of marriage is for black women. There have been TV specials, tons of articles, and a bunch of commentary on the subject. It feels like an obsession to be honest. Not too long ago, a Wall Street Journal article came out that offered a solution to the “phenomenon”. Mr. Banks, a Professor of Law at Stanford Law School suggests that black women open themselves up to relationships with men of other races. In doing this they “might find themselves in better relationships” and “lessen the power disparity that depresses the African-American marriage rate”. Interesting, hun?
Recently, I have personally noticed a surge of interracial and intercultural dating. Day by day, the world is blending more and more and the color lines are fading. Hence, Mr. Banks offers some valid suggestions. Concurrently, I hear the concerns of those who have difficulty crossing racial and cultural lines. It requires a lot of WORK, patience, perseverance, and determination (such is life however). Ultimately, my main suggestion to people is: pray for God to link you with your “one” and be honest with yourself about what you are getting yourself into. How do you do this? First, ask for God’s guidance and direction and get to know YOURSELF! Once you know you, you can be honest with you. As I stated in a previous blog, “companionship is key”. There are genuine difficulties that can arise when different races and cultures mix, but, they are not impossible to conquer. If both parties are willing to put in the work, love, no matter the race or culture is a beautiful thing.
From Him:
I agree with her on this. If God is in it, then there are no worries, regardless of what race or color you and your partner are. I personally feel that people always get so unnecessarily worked up about this whole interracial dating topic. Black women do in particular when they see black men with women of other races. Though I have heard black men complain about black women dating outside of their race too. I say date whatever race pleases you.
Mentioned article:
- Interracial Fix for Black Marriage (online.wsj.com)
